You are a Diamond
April 1, 2019 at 3:15 PM
YOU Are A Diamond
You are valuable, and your partner more than anyone else should treat you as their #1.
But what if they don’t???
What if you have begged and pleaded for things that seem normal and reasonable???… you have even asked your friends if they think what you are asking for in a relationship is normal just to be sure…
You might just be in the devaluation stage of your relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
People with NPD display certain characteristics, and although they are very charming, fun, and go over the top to show you value in the beginning of the relationship – that often changes as your relationship becomes deeper. Especially after they “have you” (you have either gotten married, moved in together, or had a baby together) – you will find yourself being devalued.
What does this look like?
- Your partner is unable to empathize with your feelings, perspective, or experiences
- Your partner is into “adventure” of some kind and does not seem content with just settling down into a harmonious partner existence
- Your partner devalues you by not accepting decisions, thoughts, or feelings that are important to you. As a result, you have a lot of conflict
- Your partner rarely if ever apologizes for anything. Conflict is always “your fault”
- Your partner does not provide resolutions to your concerns (because they cannot empathize and are highly defensive)
- Your partner may even devalue you by having inappropriate relationships with other people
- Your partner throws a tantrum and argues with you if you set a boundary (instead of just accepting your boundary)
- You have caught your partner in lies (whether about other relationships, financial matters, an addiction), they have trouble telling the truth
- Your partner stops doing nice things for you. They either withdraw emotionally or they try to control you (or a combination of both).
- Your partner is verbally or even physically or sexually abusive to you
These are some of the most common traits of NPD and usually the prognosis is not good because most people with NPD do not accept that they have a problem. Many people with NPD end up having a lot of failed relationships after various partners leave them.
After all, you can only be devalued and abused for but so long…
Because you are a Diamond and should be treated as such by your #1.
If you think you might be in a relationship with someone with NPD, you can discuss with a Relationship Repair Associate and verify your suspicions either through attending Couples Therapy or Individual Therapy. Please Contact Us today for assistance.