Do You Want to Hire a Marriage Surgeon or a Marriage General Practitioner?
February 5, 2018 at 3:18 PM
Costs of Marriage Success vs. Marriage Failure
What is the cost of Marriage Success to you? If you are like most people, you would probably say PRICELESS
After all, How much did you spend on your wedding? When you are having fun and getting along with your partner, how much is that worth to you? How much is it worth to have an intact family with both parents in the home so your children do not go through a divorce? How proud are you to tell your friends and neighbors that you have been married for blank number of years?
How about the financial costs of Marriage Failure? Half of your assets split up, usually moving to two new homes, divorce and attorney fees, the LOSS OF TENS OR HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS, MORE DEPENDING UPON YOUR ASSETS
Not to mention the emotional costs? DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, SHAME, FEELINGS OF FAILURE, HAVING TO START OVER WITH DATING AND MATING
You invest your money in your home, your retirement, your children. How about your marriage? Are you investing in your marriage, or are you expecting that you can work through all your problems without any help from a professional?
Are you one of those couples that I see getting advice online in Facebook groups from other people who are having marriage and relationship problems? Have you tried spending only a $15 copay to get a referral from your insurance company for your local psychologist or social worker (who may not even be a specialist with excellent training in couples therapy)? These people are trained to treat mental health problems not necessarily help with marriage problems.
I recently had a couple who worked with me for 3 sessions. By the third session, we had already fixed their communication problem. They had wasted their time and money on a previous therapist who did not have expertise in marriage therapy and who didn’t even help them. They had to hire a babysitter, go out for the evening, meet with the therapist, pay the therapist, and then not even get the help they needed.
Who is giving you marriage advice? WHO ARE YOU SEEKING HELP FROM FOR SOMETHING THAT COULD COST YOU HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF IT FAILS BUT THE REWARDS ARE PRICELESS IF YOU SUCCEED?
Do you really want to get your advice and help from someone who is not a specialist. Would you risk getting brain surgery from a General Practitioner, or would you pay more and find a way to come up with the money on your credit card to pay for the brain surgeon?
There are post-doctorate programs in Couples and Marriage Therapy that I have completed, there are Ph.D. and Master’s Degree programs specifically in Marriage and Family Therapy with real classrooms and practicums. There is research on what makes marriages work and what causes it to fail – and there are interventions based upon that research. Does your therapist know what they are? How about the family and Facebook friends who are giving you advice?
ARE YOU GOING TO GAMBLE YOUR PRICELESS MARRIAGE on advice that might be complete BS???????????
Are you going to be one of those people who complains to me about how much it costs to hire me (a specialist) to save your previous PRICELESS family and home While you are spending your money going on cruises,luxury cars, and going out to dinner?
Seriously, I used to have customers who would ask for discounts for my service after they were referred by friends, their pastor, or their doctor because I have word of mouth reputation. When I was younger, I sometimes agreed then I realized that these same people were taking a cruise or driving a luxury car while I couldn’t afford one because I am still paying off my Ph.D. Loan and for money I have spent on my postdoctorate training.
If you want a marriage surgeon, a relationship expert, it is going to cost you some money. It might even mean you can’t take as big of a vacation or that you have to cut back somewhere else in your budget. All I can say is, I hope you get your priorities in order and stop Gambling on Your PRICELESS MARRIAGE and the COST OF DIVORCE before it’s too late.
I can help your marriage no matter where you live in the world, as long as you speak English. Or if I can’t help you and I think your Marriage is doomed to fail because your partner is abusive or has a personality disorder, I will tell you that within the first 2-3 sessions at the end of my assessment – not after a whole year of wasting your time and money paying someone who doesn’t know what they are doing.
Book your FREE Virtual or Phone Strategy Session now to discuss how I can give you Quality Help for your PRICELESS Relationship and to get a quote for the real costs of a Marriage Surgeon.